...you're in the Navy?

...you joined the military?

...how the fuck did I not know this?

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I'm an '08 graduate. Did some college, but decided to take some time off as I'm no longer wishing to pursue a journalism career like I wanted to for years. I'm not really sure what I want to do now, but I'm trying to figure it out while working a "decently" paid part-time job to cover the bills, yippee.

Why is the love gone?

Because you're in the mother fucking military. </3

...and?

Kay + people in the military = oil & water

Oh...

I don't think less of you.. necessarily. Heh. I just, imo, think joining the military is a very stupid (and somewhat selfish) thing to do. I know there are a few that do it for the college money, or actually want a career they offer. But, it's just my experience with my past loved ones, or friends that I've known who joined and either completely changed, or something equally ridiculous. I can't stand it.

I can respect your dislike of the military, but how is it stupid or selfish? Not only can I not afford to go to college, but with my grades, I wouldn't be able to get in. Therefore, college isn't an option. I can't just work and live at home. It's nearly impossible to get a job in this town (and across America, I'm sure), and as it stands now, I'm not even getting hours where I AM employed. The only other option would be the military. It's a way to get money, get in shape, and get my life going. Plus, it will pay for college should I decide to go (I want to at the moment, but that could change). I don't see what's wrong with it. It stops me from living with my parents for the next few years and it's my only shot at college. Plus, there are tons of benefits, just like you'd find with a full-time job. Only I'm already in the Navy and don't have a full-time job.

I just fail to see how this is selfish. I'm not attached to anyone here, and even if I was, moving away and moving on with life is a part of...well, life! The only "selfish" aspect of joining the military I can find is that it requires someone to leave home for many years, but college does that, and so does simply moving away. And I'm coming back eventually. Not to mention that college can have the same character-changing affects as the military. I've known many people who have been in the military or are in the military. Some of them are some of the coolest people I know. Some are major assholes because of it (ie: my dad).

A few notes.
1. I am so fucking tired that I am in a state that would cause my mom to ask me if I was drunk. If I somehow put out an intelligent reply here, I will be freaking amazed.
2. I have no idea why I said I have a few notes. I only had one.

I'm 19, in third semester of college. In the third different college so far. I am going for graphic design. It's the one thing that I truly and genuinely love to do. It makes me happy. So I'm going to do that.

Um... not sure what to say else. I've not hada job since last summer. It's been kinda tough to get a job here in Michigan recently for obvious reasons.

As for the military, I personally would never join. I don't agree with war at all. I can honestly say that if there was a draft tomorrow (Which is actually today. haha. funny how that works), I would be in Canada by dinnertime bugging the shit out of Fredy. I would rather commit treason than join the military.

But hey that's just me. If that's calling, all the power to you. I don't think it's a selfish thing. I grew up in a pseudo military family. My parents were both military kids so I grew up with a lot of that discipline. Both of my grandfathers fought in Korea (and WWII for the one grandfather). They joined, they weren't drafted. They both told me that they felt it was their duty to do what they can for their country because their country would be doing that for them for decades after they had retired from the military.

And Lucifer, maybe you'll get lucky and they'll have reduced troop totals so much by July that you won't have to go (if that is what you want, of course. lol)

I'm not saying you're stupid or selfish. Just from the people I know that have gone off to the military, they were doing it for pure selfish/idiotic reasons. One even ruined a relationship for me, and the other ruined a friendship. I suppose it's made me a bit biased, but oh well. Like you said, you don't have anyone holding you back, but the people I knew, did. They had close knit families, and friends that were more family members than even blood could be. It just tore me down a lot to have them gone for so long, and then have them come back completely different people that I didn't recognize and/or like. It got so bad that I straight out told my fiance before we started dating, if he ever joined the military, I'd break it off with him. And I still stand by that fully. Thankfully, he also holds a dislike for it, so he never would unless forced. Which, since he's his mother and father's only son, and child, I doubt even a draft would allow it to happen if the old laws are still in place.

Just please don't read into it (like you seem to already have done) that I think everyone who joins is stupid/selfish. I don't. I mean, if you go because it'll better your life, and you can still come out the same person you were before, more power to you. And thank you for being a part of the country's army. It's not like I think a military is unnecessary, because I think most people know these days, they are necessary. I'm just not fond of people I know and/or love joining. It scares me. I've known you for... years now. So it took me by surprise, and kind of ..angered me I guess. But it's your life, and I'm glad it's doing a lot of good things for you. Just don't change who you are. So far it doesn't seem like it has.

Too many walls of text.

I'm going to be a freshmen in college this year, possibly in computer science, math, or any form of engineering. I'm still fairly undecided. In regards to any plans other then that... I'll talk to you once I survive this year.

Senior this year.
Workload for me (due to credit mishaps) = MASSIVE.

And I moved over the summer to live with my dad in Mass.
So new school, credit mishaps, and still not having a plan for this year (after school plans, how to earn everything I need to earn plans, and they still haven't freaking determined a date for me to set up my schedule). It's gonna be a rocky year, but as long as it gets me graduating.

juniorwat.

No idea what I'm even doing next year, let alone in college, or the rest of my life.